Note: This article was originally written in Vietnamese. The English version below is an informal translation provided for reference only.
In many Vietnamese families around Atlanta, parents work tirelessly — often even on weekends — hoping to build a secure future for their children. In the rush of daily life, many end up entrusting most of the child-rearing responsibility to schools and society. But schools can only teach knowledge, and society can offer opportunities. The love, presence, and moral example that shape a child’s heart — those can only come from parents.
When a family’s presence is missing, children grow up with emotional gaps. And sadly, those gaps are not easily filled later in life.
Small Habits, Big Changes
Family meals without phones: A 2015 University of Illinois study found that children who share at least four meals a week with their parents tend to perform better academically and are less likely to engage in negative behaviors.
Short evening talks: Psychologists at the Mayo Clinic note that when parents spend just 10–15 minutes talking privately with their children each day, kids show lower stress levels and greater self-confidence.
Joining community or church activities: Research published in the Journal of Child Development found that children involved in community activities report higher happiness levels and a lower risk of isolation.
Lead by example: According to the American Psychological Association (APA), children learn more from observing behavior than from verbal instruction.
Praise effort, not only results: A Stanford University study revealed that praising children for their effort — rather than outcomes — helps them become more patient and resilient in facing challenges.
What Parents Should Avoid
Don’t yell or scold harshly: A 2013 study from the University of Pittsburgh showed that children frequently yelled at by parents are more prone to anxiety and depression.
Don’t belittle or criticize cruelly: The Journal of Child Psychology reports that harsh criticism can leave “psychological scars,” leading to low self-esteem and avoidance of challenges.
Be mindful of gestures and tone: Researchers at UCLA found that 70% of communication is nonverbal — a cold glance can wound more deeply than words.
Avoid comparisons: A survey by the American Academy of Pediatrics found that comparing children with siblings or peers can weaken family bonds and create lasting feelings of inadequacy.
Money can be saved. Jobs can change. But a child’s childhood comes only once. In that brief yet priceless journey, parents remain the first teachers — and the most important ones.
